If you’re reading this, it’s likely you were planning your dream wedding in 2020 and it was impacted by COVID-19. If that’s true, I feel for you. I’m so bummed about all of this, and I know that your disappointment must be through the roof. I understand there is a lot at play – emotions, logistics, and potentially even finances. I want you to know that no matter what, I’ve got your back and I’ll do whatever I can to help you.
So whether you’ve hired me as your vendor, or you’re just searching the web looking for guidance on how to navigate COVID-19 and your wedding, I hope this blog offers you some clarity, encouragement, and (dare I say) excitement as you make decisions about your wedding. That’s right, I said excitement; because even though you may not be able to have the wedding you’ve envisioned, you still have some wonderful alternatives.
Before I dive in, I want to take a moment to help you center and get into a positive headspace.
This is the perfect time to look proudly at your relationship and to appreciate your partner and all the comfort they give you during this time. This is also an opportunity to meditate on what you want your marriage to be and what’s most important to the two of you when it comes to your wedding. If you can get through quarantine together, you can get through anything!
I hope you take this time to focus on what’s most important to you as a couple. Think deeply about each aspect of your wedding. From decor, to venue, to guest list, to ceremony, to reception, ask yourself:
In my opinion, that last question is by far the one that matters most. If many of your decisions were made for other people, this is a great opportunity to shake those obligations free and recalibrate your wedding to be exactly what you and your fiance want it to be.
Your number one priority is to keep yourself healthy, mentally and physically. Whatever choices bring you peace and excitement, those are the right choices.
Being a wedding vendor, I’ve spoken to many couples over the last few weeks about their change of plans and have been impressed time and time again by their creativity! Here are a few awesome coronavirus-friendly wedding alternatives.
If you can’t imagine saying ‘i do’ without hundreds of family and friends gathered to Ooo and Aaa at your first kiss, let loose on the dance floor with wild abandon, and throw confetti at you as you depart on your honeymoon, you may want to postpone your wedding.
This is a great option for couples who can handle the suspense of another year or two if it means having the wedding they’ve been dreaming of.
Last of all, but perhaps most importantly, I highly encourage you to find the positives! Make a list of things that you’re excited about with your new wedding date. This will help you reframe the situation and focus on all the exciting things on the horizon.
However small they might seem, spend some dedicated time writing down all the ways postponing your wedding will actually make it better. Putting a positive spin on it will help you look forward to your new date and sustain your feelings of excitement.
If your priority is to get married to your person this year – nothing is stopping you from doing exactly that! Don’t get me wrong, I love a big party, but small weddings and elopements are my absolute favorite. There is something so romantic about two people in love just going for it. Whether you choose to spend this day with only your fiance, or you surround yourself with your closest friends and family, small weddings and elopements are just as special as big celebrations.
I lovingly nicknamed this option, ‘Have your (wedding) cake and eat it too’ 😉
If you can’t decide between getting married this year or throwing the party of your dreams, this is the best of both worlds! Live out your mountain top elopement fantasy this year and throw your wedding on your wedding anniversary.
However you decide to move forward with your wedding, your vendors are here to help you! We will do everything we can to help you navigate this new chapter of your engagement.
Many wedding vendors are small businesses (like me) which means that we rely on a lively wedding season to keep us afloat. With suddenly empty calendars, it’s important, now more than ever, for all of us to work together to bring your wedding to life while also advocating our own needs.
That’s why I put together this short list; to help couples and vendors work through this together.
In addition to these tips, I want to take a moment to acknowledge that, like those of us in the wedding industry, you may also be affected financially by COVID-19. If you have lost your job, had your hours reduced, or been financially impacted in any other way, it is so important to communicate this with your vendors. I can’t speak for everyone, but with an entire wedding season canceled, we are all impacted, and many of us are willing to work with you to help you through this time. Personally, I have implemented a pay-what-you-can-model that locks in 2020 wedding pricing if your finances and wedding were affected by COVID-19. Many vendors have developed their own solutions to help couples in need during this time.
Lastly, many of you have so graciously reached out to ask how you can support me and other wedding vendors during this time. If you have the means and you’d like to help small businesses in the wedding industry during this time, here are a few ways you can do so:
Just ask any couple that has been rained out on their wedding – The biggest disasters can become the fondest memories. Everyone is in your corner and rooting for you and your love to have the most carefree, personal, and memorable wedding day that’s even better than you could have ever planned.
I’ll be here, sending you lots of love, and reminding you to think of how special it will be to celebrate your marriage safely after everything settles. Every hug, warm embrace, and moment of laughter will be that much sweeter! I can’t wait to celebrate with you!
If you’d like to know more about your options related to COVID-19 and your wedding, contact me!